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June 10, 2021
How are you all doing? I mean how are you all really doing? It’s been the hardest of years hasn’t it? I still can’t quite believe we’re in it and experiencing what we’re experiencing. But hey, we are and we’re all in it together. Back in March, when lockdown begun, I was very worried for me, my family, the world and of course, my business. Whilst a lot of those worries have not gone away and I am still sad for what is happening in the world, I have dealt with lockdown a lot better than I thought I would have. As someone that struggles with their mental health (yes, I can actually write that now), I was worried how it would dip for me. But I have generally remained calm and focussed, and actually quite surprised myself.
Whilst there has certainly been some hard times, I have bounced back and got back on the path to where I want to be, and business is actually doing really well. Whilst I write this I am very aware that this will not be the case for everyone, so please know it is ok to feel whatever you are feeling right now and I am here if you want to talk. I do think lockdown has taught us all some lessons though, and I’d like to share some of those with you today…
As I mentioned, I was very worried back in March for so many reasons. I honestly doubted my strength to cope through such a situation. And none of us have dealt with anything like this before have we?
I spent about a week feeling low, worrying and not being very productive. Which, by the way, is completely fine and understandable right now, so definitely don’t beat you up if you are feeling that way / have felt that way too.
After that week I picked myself up. I decided to stop viewing the news, I took myself out of a negative WhatsApp group and I curated the people that I was following on social media. And I knew that I had worked far too hard on my business to let it all slide away.
I organised an online summit for the wedding industry and worked out what I could do in my business to not only bring in some income, but to keep it active during these tough times. I completely surprised myself – and others – at how strong I was and how I coping. We are so much stronger than we think we are, I promise you.
I have actually been practising gratitude for a while now, but it came into force during lockdown.
Generally, I try and journal each morning as part of a morning routine and it has really helped my mindset and confidence over the years. But over lockdown I relied on it a lot more whenever I needed it during the day.
Whilst our feelings are very much valid, it is great to remember what we do have rather than what we don’t have. So, for example, when I would look out the window in the morning and be desperate to get out and about and back to normal, I would bring that round to being grateful to have a lovely house with my family in it, and be grateful for a slower pace of life, or the sunlight coming in through the windows and making patterns on the walls.
Whilst I know what we are going through is so hard, most of us still have a lot in life to be thankful and grateful for, and they are quite often small things that aren’t going anywhere.
I don’t know about you, but I for one have been blown away by the support out there, both from individuals and seeing us come together as a nation.
Each Thursday we went out to clap for the NHS and key workers, and it moved me and showed that there are so many kind people out there. I took mys son Bertie out there a couple of times, and it was a special moment for him to experience.
In my inbox and DMs I received regular messages checking in on me and seeing how I am and as friends, we made sure we kept in regular contact and set up a weekly Zoom call.
Whilst I have also seen a side of some that has caused me to have to end relationships, I have generally seen such support, kindness and concern from people and it does give you faith in humanity. We are too quick to concentrate on the negatives and the “bad” people out there, but I think lockdown saw people standing together and has made us proud of the human race once more.
Again, I have been trying to look after myself for a while now and put myself first, after all I can’t look after my family and run a business if I don’t take care of myself. But over lockdown I did let this slip, and I have recently felt the effects.
I have spent the last couple of years heavily working on myself and I know what I need to be the best version of myself and take care of myself, and one of those things is a healthy diet. I think the majority of us over-indulged in lockdown didn’t we? But I am certainly feeling the effects now and it has caused my mental health to slip a little.
However, I am getting back on track and as a treat to myself due to the recent months and some fantastic bookings I have made lately, I am taking myself off for a few days next week. After all, looking after yourself isn’t just healthy eating and bubble baths – it’s knowing what you need to maintain confidence, self-esteem and self-belief.
Ok, so I’ve known this for a long time but right now the way the wedding industry is coming together is incredible and I’m so proud to be part of an such incredible community.
So many industries have been hit hard over the recent months, but ours has especially had. We’ve been ignored, offered no guidance and have had decisions taken away at the last moment. And a lot of people in the industry have had little or no financial support.
Whilst this has caused a huge amount of distress, it has seen the industry come together like never before. Communities supporting each other, new relationships formed and even counties rallying together to submit complaints to their local MPs.
We are still feeling the full effects, but I know we will be back in full force as soon as we can and in the meantime, we are here to support our couples and teach the world that weddings aren’t just about the pretty – they’re about telling stories, romance and the first chapter of people for their lives together.
And I’d love for you to share what you have learnt during lockdown and recent months? And how are you coping right now? I do hope you’re ok. Something that has really helped me is affirmations, one of them being ‘this too shall pass’ – perhaps you could try saying that too. And if you want to chat I’m here for you. If you’re a wedding couple struggling with having to push your wedding back, please do pop me an email at email@example.com. Or if you’re a wedding vendor, why not join my supportive community in my free Facebook group Curate Your Wedding Brand.
Thanks for reading and take care,